Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

Saturday, 25 April 2009

Change Your Belief System Now

Now we know what beliefs are and how they can affect our decisions and ultimately change the course of our lives, lets look at how we can change them.

Why, well quite simply if you know that a certain belief has held you back or stopped you achieving something you really wanted why wouldn't you want to change it?

The first thing we need to identify is what it is that you aren't happy with or have tried to achieve but failed at, perhaps you have tried to lose weight or get fit before but every time you get close to the weight that you want to be you fall off the wagon so to speak and the weight just piles back on.....there's a good example of a belief that may be holding you back.

Once identified we then need to question why this happens, what goes through your mind at this point, how do you feel, what are you saying to yourself.

These questions will inevitably throw up a belief that you have developed over a period of time, perhaps that belief is "I don't deserve to be trim" this could have been as a result of name calling or the like when you were at school and because it was so frequent it became a belief so every time you get close to having the body you deserve it kicks in and says "hang on a minute, I'm fat and always will be, don't you remember?" this in turn causes you to abandon all your efforts and revert to what you think is type!

Remember this part..."What you THINK is type"

So, now we have identified the negative belief that is stopping us moving forward and achieving all the things we want, lets change it shall we.

How do we do that?

First we need to look at the cost to you of having this belief;

What has it cost you until now, in terms of career, relationships, happiness?
What has it cost your family and friends?
What will it cost you in the next 12 months if you continue to let it dictate your actions?
What will it cost you in the next 5, 10 even 20 years?
What will life be like if you continue along this same path?

Not good I'm guessing, this really hits home doesn't it?

Now let's get positive for a while.

What would you like to believe instead?
How would you like to react?

Now picture yourself they way you want to be, how does it feel?

Look around you what can you see, what is different, how does it smell use all of your senses and soak up the atmosphere around you when you have acted in the way you always wanted but have never been able to.

How has this changed your life, now then look ahead 5, 10 even 20 years.

How great is your life and the life of those around you?

I can tell you the first time that I went through this process it really blew my mind and I realised just how much I had missed out on by letting outdated beliefs run my life.

So, Now you know what it is going to cost you if you continue along the same path as you have been...do you want to make a change?

Right then lets see if we can find supporting evidence that will allow you to move forward.

You have identified what you want to feel or how you want to behave already now lets see if we can find evidence in other areas of your life that support those actions, thoughts or feelings.

You see you do have the things you want.

Just to make things a little more certain lets make it easy for you to feel good about yourself, at the moment what has to happen for you to feel happy?

I am guessing something fairly complex.

It doesn't have to be though, just think how often you could feel happy if all that had to happen was for someone to say hello to you or smile at you!

This technique can be used for anything at all.

Make it easy it to feel good spend a bit of time looking at your beliefs and then change them to support you and make your life fantastic.




Friday, 24 April 2009

Just what are beliefs then?

Beliefs - we all have then and without even being aware of it your beliefs could well be holding you back and stopping you from achieving the things you really want in life, whether that be money, fitness, happiness or career we have beliefs that affect all of these things.

Let me explain a little; as humans we are subjected to influences every second of our lives, these could be the influence of friends, parents, media (T.V, Newspapers, etc), events past and present.

Based on our interpretation of these events or influences we feel emotions and then attach meanings to the event, as these events are replayed instead of assessing them again based on their current context our subconscious will either delete, distort or generalise about the event.

This process doesn't allow us to identify differences between the events and so we begin to believe that we must feel or behave in a certain way every time a similar event occurs.

So you can see that over many years this could well become a belief so powerful that it stops us achieveing the things we really want.

Beliefs are based on past events and infuences, they are then strengthened by evidence provided as a result of the delete distort and generalise process....they can be changed